Monday, April 26, 2010

They Say It's Your Birthday

I wish I could let it go- and just say - it's a day - anyday- who cares. But...

Birthdays have never been a big deal to me. They are often a great excuse to go off and do something fun (we did that). Or to get yourself a special treat (we'll do that too).  But everyone is nagging me to do something for your birthday.

It won't be for you... unfortunately. You don't really like everyone looking at you. It makes you nervous still. Suspicious.

It will be for them- so they can shower you with love.

I never understand why we think we have to wait for a special day for that. If you want to shower someone with love-- make a day special just for them-- DO IT. Why wait till only one day a year. It kind of bugs me that I'm going to stoop to this and do something. It will make my parents happy. Aunts and uncles. But---  some of them have been showering you and making special days for you since before you came home. You'll learn more about that as time goes on.. but- at some point this week- we'll have cousins over- 2nd cousins- Aunts and Uncles (yours and mine) and grand parents and maybe a few friends and call it a party.

3 months ago at guest house

It bugs me still. I have no reason to doubt the date, other than a bunch of obvious translation things. Today- you do not act like a 3 year old-- maybe 2 or 2 and a half. But then again... 3 months ago you didn't act like a 2 year old.  Who knows.. is this just time and transition? Is it that you are younger than reported? Does it matter?  I don't really think so. 

But the idea of a forced celebration still bugs the crap out of me. I'll let it slide this year. Next year-- it's all you and me baby! 


Liz said...

Reading a post like this makes me glad I live as far away from my family as I do. Life would be easier in a lot of ways if they were closer, but I don't have to worry about being expected to throw a party when I don't want to!

Have you taken him to an international adoption specialist for a better idea of his age? The one I went to was able to tell me that Elfe is most likely not significantly older than her birthdate says she is, even though she is very mature in a lot of ways.

Staci said...

I love birthdays, not the massive party with excessive presents per se. I do like to take a day and pause about how much better the world is with this person, and celebrate the day the person came into the world. It is special.

Happy B day Teggy. I love that pic of you two.

Heather said...

Happy Birthday, little one! Hope you and your Mom have the best of days possible!

Me. Us. She. said...

Where did the private blog go? I am confused and can't find it anymore!! Help. Amanda

Shannon- said...

The link is on the sidebar. I had to change the direct link to avoid our names. I'll email you .5

Queen Of The Castle said...

hope it is a great day :)

Chrissy said...

What a cutie!!!