I'm really irritated/irate when people say things like:
-"You really got a good one" because he's cute or he's good or... whatever qualifier they add.
I've even heard other adoptive families refer to themselves the same way and it makes me really... ummm... kinda pissed.
"I really hit the jackpot with this kid. She's so easy."
Somehow it twinges the same nerve when a grown adult repeats the "Why would I give birth again when there are so many kids no one wants. I'd rather just get one of them and save them."
Seriously? Why does it feel like the same snide remark? "Oh ya. It's all so easy peasy and luck has SOO much to do with family building."
I think its the shallow surface of the sentiment that rubs me wrong. It pisses me off. And this is my blog. So I'm putting it out there.
I hope I never disregard your family, its crisis, its deep hard work, its diligent process, the depth of mourning, and breadth of healing by looking at a snapshot in time and say "Jackpot!" If I have... I am so deeply sorry.