tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1254081687261286571.post2518252305232815973..comments2023-07-15T06:24:05.667-04:00Comments on Wandered Outside... : Opining...Sha Zam-http://www.blogger.com/profile/11705917883828933628noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1254081687261286571.post-18536406282001426872012-04-01T13:22:23.882-04:002012-04-01T13:22:23.882-04:00Aja-- I get what you are saying, and yes tone is i...Aja-- I get what you are saying, and yes tone is important. I'm speaking specifically about the tones that are so quick to assume how 'easy' and 'smart' it is to just go 'get one' that needs a house to live in. As if they're imagining going to the local human society and picking up the cutest, declawed, nonallergenic, potty trained, purrfect cat who happens to alsoSha Zam-https://www.blogger.com/profile/11705917883828933628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1254081687261286571.post-36270247082230000162012-04-01T11:56:47.856-04:002012-04-01T11:56:47.856-04:00Oh yeah. It's all in the tone and context. I...Oh yeah. It's all in the tone and context. It's one thing to think wow, my child is amazing, I am so blessed... and quite another to say similar words that somehow come across like you had a good day at the flea market or something, like the expectation was that your child is the exception among all those other awful, damaged ones you could have wound up adopting. I've had a couplebarb_aloothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07990706676816248438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1254081687261286571.post-3429831149441122832012-04-01T11:00:07.324-04:002012-04-01T11:00:07.324-04:00Nobody says that kind of shite with a bio kid, I w...Nobody says that kind of shite with a bio kid, I will not do well if/when somebody says that to me when we have Aberash home.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09167285276763745176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1254081687261286571.post-88438614916750451682012-04-01T10:23:54.702-04:002012-04-01T10:23:54.702-04:00Leah- I love the "I've had many lovers&qu...Leah- I love the "I've had many lovers" comment, that may be the best one I have heard so far.<br /><br />I don't think people mean any harm by their comments when they say something like, "You've really hit the jackpot with that one." I think most people are trying to give a compliment and they don't think how the adoptive parent may be perceiving their Ajahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04552026670772385142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1254081687261286571.post-10843387603387745362012-04-01T09:38:01.244-04:002012-04-01T09:38:01.244-04:00Leah- I would LOVE to hear you say that!! Bahaa. T...Leah- I would LOVE to hear you say that!! Bahaa. To the little ol' Hawaiian ladies. Baaa ahaaaSha Zam-https://www.blogger.com/profile/11705917883828933628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1254081687261286571.post-14895996256863765262012-04-01T09:36:46.071-04:002012-04-01T09:36:46.071-04:00I should also add- Feel free to brag on your kids ...I should also add- Feel free to brag on your kids all you want! They are your children!! It's only the uber- superficial remarks (especially continued) that tweak a nerve. Go ahead and say them. I'm bugged by LOTS of things. And just because it rubs me wrong doesn't mean 'IT is wrong'. It means I'm snarky and suspicious of intentions.Sha Zam-https://www.blogger.com/profile/11705917883828933628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1254081687261286571.post-82467621644711640472012-03-31T23:42:57.551-04:002012-03-31T23:42:57.551-04:00Lady at Home Depot walked up to me and the kids to...Lady at Home Depot walked up to me and the kids today, "Are they adopted?" <br />To which I responded, "No, I've had many lovers."<br /><br />It gets super old. I have the same feelings. I'm glad we can share in that. <br /><br />ILY<br />LLeahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15294603938160394697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1254081687261286571.post-86348648594132188602012-03-31T23:12:47.785-04:002012-03-31T23:12:47.785-04:00So you're telling me it's wrong that I reg...So you're telling me it's wrong that I regularly tell people to aim lower with their expectations for their children, since I clearly have the best one with the most desirable attributes? Great. Now I'm going to have to come up with another topic for casual conversation with people I've just met. :-)findingmagnoliahttp://findingmagnolia.comnoreply@blogger.com