Monday, December 17, 2012

This is not about Gun Control


This isn't about gun control.
But, it is.

This isn't about mental health, health care, or stigma.
But, it is.

This isn't about God not being allowed in schools.
Because, of course, she is there.



A friend once told me about her middle school experience. Apparently one of the students was dealing drugs in the school. He kept the drugs hidden in his hat. Once he was caught, there was uproar. Demands that something be done! Keep our children SAFE! NO DRUGS.

So now, kids can't wear hats in school.

It's not about hats.
It's really not.



One fool tries to blow up his shoe on a plane. Although we whine and mutter about it, each of us remembers and knows why. We 'know' this ridiculous stocking feet routine is at least 'doing something'.

It's not about shoes. Or even bombs in our shoes.
It's really not.


Drugs are in our schools. They are. Outlawing hats does not address the problem. Plans are being made to blow up planes. Some will succeed. They will. Doesn't matter how many of our shoes are x-ray'ed or how many of us are felt up during TSA checks. It makes 'us' feel as if we are in control. "We are 'doing something' about it."  But are we?

We fight because we feel powerless. We fight to get that power 'back'. We think, that will somehow make us feel safe once again. Truth is, we never had it. It is always just a facade.

If we really are, there should be no reason to fear, right? Now that there are police at school drop off. To 'feel' like we are doing something. Do we suddenly feel safer, and have no twinge of fear at that wave goodbye and blown kiss.

The stigma of Mental health needs to be addressed. Promptly. Respectfully. Immediately. Help for children with mental illness. YES!

The stigma of MEN seeking medical help for any health issue needs to be addressed. Promptly. Respectfully. Immediately. Personally I think there  find a vast difference in how men and women perceive illness and thus seeking medical care. This is also true for other demographic sets and, YES needs to be addressed.

Gun control. Oh my freaking word. YES. You can spout 2nd amendment to me all day. This is what I see in that particular amendment. I see family men who remember living in fear, of their families being threatened and those men, in turn, made ... perhaps the first documented error of "fighting for control" where perhaps that wasn't really the issue. The issue was independence and right to protect their property. It's perhaps possible that is EXACTLY what the forefathers intended. Own a gun in your home. Protect your family if invaded. GUN CONTROL YES! And this from a constitutional conservative. (note: not political one... big giant difference. )

This isn't a post about all the answers. I think the problem is, we are jumping to answers, without really asking all the questions. I don't think, mental health, health care or gun control are going to fix this. This is not a 3 prong issue.

If someone wants to shoot up a school, blow up a plane, or sell drugs to kids...  Here's what I know. If they are determined enough and smart enough-- they will. It doesn't matter how many doors are locked. How many police are in the building. How many items of clothing you are wearing or need to strip off. Bad shit happens.  Shitty people do shitty things. Mean people are mean. Crazy people are crazy. Bombers bomb. Dopers dope.

I want more questions. Not necessarily more answers. Its starts at home. What am I? Who am I when the bad shit flies? Who are we raising our children to be?  I don't know the answers. I suspect, we haven't found them yet. I'm scared. I'm nervous. And having gun wearing officers at an elementary school does not alleviate that fear. My biggest fear, is that we'll screw up school, learning, children... by 'doing something'.

Oh- and THIS! Yes. This.

3 comments:

Sunday Taylor said...

as I sit here at work today in the inner city..."protected" by armed guards...I am never sure if I feel safer or more aware of just how unsafe I am...I have always wanted something different for the kids who have lived here like this for decades and for mine, at home a few LONG miles north.

Barb Aloot said...

Yes, yes, yes. I sit here in a country where the ordinary police are unarmed, where gun ownership is legal and tightly controlled, where yes criminals have guns and generally only use them on each other. And I ponder what is it about America, my homeland, that gives us mass shootings. In the rest of the world, mass shootings are extremely rare and usually part of a political conflict. They don't leap at you randomly in the middle of your normally peaceful shopping trip, school day, night at the movies. I don't know. America is so big it is not possible to make sweeping generalizations, but the one thing I've noticed in 12 years living abroad is that every time I visit home, I feel more and more unable to cope with the barrage of micro aggressions, the in your face commentary of strangers, the harried pace, the constant competing demands my loved ones juggle with work, family dramas, the relentless intrusion of phone sales, the noise levels of voices, music, television. I don't know. I don't feel safe visiting home, and I didn't feel safe living there. Gun control, services for mental illness, yes obviously needed. But that isn't all that is needed.

S said...

I just said to a friend, "Why didn't this stuff happen when I was a kid, it didn't?" What are the differences between now and then...I have no answers. And that picture above, my boy no matter how much I tried to keep toy guns etc. out of the house he found ways to make guns with sticks etc...and at almost 15 he and some of his friends (who yes also play video games) are some of the least aggressive and empathetic boys I know. And they are jocks, artists, drama fellas, and computer fellas.